Date safely, on your own terms.
The tools we built to protect you, how to report anything that feels off, and the warning signs worth knowing.
Our promise
We take your safety seriously.
Triple Sparks is built on respect and protection. We hold every member accountable for how they act, and work to keep the community free from hate, deception and harm.
That goes beyond the app. We act on reports about conduct in person, with someone you met on Triple Sparks.
Respect
Every message and profile must honour the other person.
Honesty
Real people, real photos, real intentions.
Safety
Your wellbeing comes first, online and offline.
Safety tools
Built to help you date with confidence.
Block & Report
Confidentially flag behavior that makes you uncomfortable. Our team reviews every report.
Profile Review
We actively detect and remove fake accounts, scams, and suspicious activity.
Photo Verification
Verify your identity so others know the person they are talking to is real.
In-App Chat
Connect safely without sharing personal contact information too early.
Report a post
See something? Report it in four taps.
If a post in the community makes you uncomfortable, report it straight from the feed. Reports are confidential.
- 1
Tap ••• on the post
Choose Report post. The same menu also lets you save, hide or block.
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Pick a reason
False information, scam or spam, hate or exploitation, or you just don’t like it.
- 3
Add details, if you like
It’s optional, but a few words help our team review faster.
- 4
That’s it
Our team reviews every report and acts if it breaks our guidelines.
Unmatch, report or block
Already matched? You’re still in control.
If a conversation stops feeling right, you can unmatch, report or block from their profile at any time.
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Open their profile
In your conversation, tap their name or photo at the top of the chat.
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Scroll to Safety & privacy
At the bottom of their profile you can unmatch, report or block them.
- 3
Unmatch, report or block
Unmatching removes your conversation and message history for good. Report profile works just like reporting a post.
Know the warning signs
20 red flags worth knowing.
Signs that a relationship should end before it becomes a marriage, grouped into five patterns.
01
Abuse & Control
Physical, Verbal, or Emotional Abuse
Any form of physical violence, intimidation, or consistent verbal degradation is an immediate “stop” sign. This includes “love bombing” followed by isolation or threats.
Controlling Behavior
Telling you what to wear, who to talk to, or checking your phone.
Unresolved Anger Issues
Frequent explosions followed by “I’m sorry” without actual change.
Isolation from Community
If they try to pull you away from your friends, family, or church, they are cutting off your support system to make you more dependent on them.
02
Spiritual & Faith
Differing Spiritual Foundations
If one partner is a devout believer and the other is indifferent or hostile toward God, the “house” will eventually be divided.
Pressure to Compromise Purity
If they claim to follow Christ but consistently pressure you to cross physical boundaries, they do not respect you or God’s Word.
No Fruit of the Spirit
A lack of kindness, patience, or self-control in daily interactions.
Spiritual Manipulation
Using Bible verses to justify selfish desires or to “subdue” you.
03
Character & Integrity
Pathological Lying
Even about small things. It destroys the foundation of trust.
Narcissism
Everything revolves around their needs, their schedule, and their reputation.
Disrespect for Authority
How they treat their parents, pastor, or boss is how they will eventually treat you.
Refusal to Apologize
An “I’m never wrong” attitude makes conflict resolution impossible.
04
Lifestyle & Compatibility
Untreated Addictions
An active, unrepented addiction means the substance is their first priority. Until they seek help and show recovery, they cannot partner in a home.
Unmanaged Mental Health
Struggles aren’t a sin, but refusing treatment or using a diagnosis to justify abuse is a red flag.
Financial Dishonesty
Secret debt, gambling, or unwillingness to work. In marriage you become one, including liabilities.
Hidden Lifestyle Issues
If a partner refuses to be honest or seek counsel, the relationship is built on a lie.
05
Relationship Dynamics
Power Imbalance
Significant age gaps that involve one person “grooming” or controlling the other’s development.
Jealousy Toward Success
If they feel threatened by your achievements or ministry growth.
Differing Views on Family
If one wants children and the other does not, this is a fundamental incompatibility.
No Shared Vision
Diametrically opposed life goals mean you will eventually pull in opposite directions.
Dating with discernment
You don’t have to marry everyone you like. If you see these signs, it is far less painful to end things early than to live with a broken marriage later.